where I supported my husband's dream of being an artist, and stuffed down my own ambitions. blonde seeking sex It literally made me sick. I feel like I wasted those ten years, but when I look more deeply, I had to make that "mistake" in order to learn the lesson. And I'm so glad I got divorced. I am now very happy, and in a relationship with someone who is so overwelmingly supportive. I'd never ever choose a like my ex-husband again. I do wonder about any underlying issues you might have with regards to your parents. I be projecting, because that's what it came down to for me. I thought that in order to be with someone it had to be hard work, almost to the point of wearing an emotional hair shirt. Like, I am a strong woman, I bear this cross, marriage is hard work, etc. All I can say to you is what I hear from you does not sound like a good term match. I a lot of resentment in your future. I understand that you feel like you've invested this years in the relationship, so you should move forward with it, and the idea of not marrying this and giving up your own desires/dreams/needs be scary, I think that this relationship not work without your partner making a BIG shift in his thinking. Maybe he can shift; I don't know.