an office with attractive women running around loose has not experienced something similar to this. I know I have. So you enjoy the fantasy. What goes on in the private sector of your mind is nobody's business not God's, not your wife's, nobody as as you don't act on it. Envision her silently next time you're intimate with your wife. Feel no guilt. The Mind not arrest you. The best way to get over this is to roll with it: off to the thought of her, envision her during sex with your wife, think every thought you can think of thinking. Zorba The Greek said something to the effect that the monks obsess about sex all the time because they never get any. Zorba does no such thing. If he craves cherries, he buys a bushel of cherries and eats until he's sick. Then he's over it. You can't have the hottie for real physiy, but you can ravage her in your mind until the cows come home. Enjoy!